What do you need to be a BRIDESMAID?

Q. As a bridesmaid, what are my formal duties? Will the bride tell me what she wants me to do?

A. The best way to figure out all the ?to-dos? and any other expected conduct, is to have the Bride lay out them in advance. For most people this will be a relief, as they will know what's expected from them at the party and ceremony. Relaxation brings happiness. So suggest to the bride to send a letter to each participant Bridesmaid explaining their duties and responsibilities. Offer her to help in preparing and mailing the letter. Most probably everybody will be delighted with the instructions, since the may be in the dark just like you.

Q. I'm scared my sister won't ask me to be in the bridal party because I'm pregnant!

A. Do not worry, if your sister loves you she will not care. Besides, if you shop for the proper Bridesmaid dress, and empire-gown, this type of design flows loose just below the bust line, being very forgiving and hiding your tummy with a very loose fit. Here at PromPartyDress we carry several gown in the princes cut (or empire-cut) that will be very appropriate for a pregnant girl.

Q. We are a group of 4 Bridesmaid in my friend?s wedding. The problem is one of the Bridesmaid is a jerk and is not helping at all. Not only she is not contributing with money for the Bachelorette party nor the Shower or anything else), but on top of that she always says that ?she has no time?. I understand that she is still in school, and money could be scarce, but time is not of essence. So what do I do ?

A. As usual, communicating would be the best option. Just tell the person that you understand the ?no money? situation, but that in exchange you expect her to dedicate time and effort to the project. Tell her that if she doesn?t help then everybody will realized that she has pitched in (invitations will go out without her name). Or just explain how much fun would be to participate in all the meetings and informal gatherings. But you are correct, if somebody accepts the responsibility of being a Bridesmaid, should be ready to help, one way or another, on the organization of the wedding. But is not up to you to tell the person to go away? so smile and concentrate on the fun part or the event.

Q. The Bride has gone mad!. My sweet and lovable friend has transformed into a selfish monster. I had put aside most of my personal life (boyfriend, school, singing lessons) to be able to help her in this special occasion? and every time she sees me, complains that I do not pay any attention to her needs. Now, I did help her with the Shower and Bachelorette party, I did help sending the invitations and organizing the center pieces. I even helped her selecting the proper Bridesmaid dress that would fit all of us (by the way, www.prompartydress.com is the solution?).
I feel like getting out of this mess and just forget about the wedding!

A. Sometimes that?s what a wedding ring does to a person. It transforms her into a being of another planet, selfish and ultra demanding. Weddings are very intense and sometimes the emotions and expectations that creates will obfuscate the Brides brain. Nevertheless looks like she may be needing some cooling advice. But dropping out of the wedding will be totally devastating for the Bride and sure to end your friendship forever.
Now, if you want to keep your friend, you have to set her straight, and she probably will see it. If this approach fails to clear her mind, then, maybe, is not worth it keeping her.
Remember, she is totally emotional and stressed out?. Maybe when she comes back from the honeymoon she will became herself again.

Q. Can I say or mention what type of dress I want as a Bridesmaid?
I do not want to sound demanding nor pushy, but I do want something that makes me look good and attractive.

A. There is no answer to this situation. Depends on the Bride and her attitude towards the Bridesmaid. It is really important that the maids like the dress and that they feel comfortable in it. Most brides nowadays will ask the Bridesmaid for their preferences. Would be good to make the first shopping trip together (actually the best option is to shop on line at www.prompartydress.com to scout dresses out from all over the world. Then you can express your feelings about the design and work from there.

Q. My brother is getting married and I am the Bridesmaid, can I get out of the Bridesmaid dress after the ceremony?

A. Well?that doesn?t sound too good. I do not think your brother or his wife to be will be very happy about it. Just imagine that you are a princess and have fun at the reception.
Is only for a couple of hours, then you can go back to your jeans.